Letting Go Of "Perfect" And Learning to Accept Myself


"What are we going to do about how hard you are on yourself? What will it take for you to stop hurting yourself like this, and just forgive yourself for being human? When will you begin to understand the preciousness of your own life?"

~ Richard from Texas, as told by Elizabeth Gilbert





Recently, it has come up several times in conversations about how I need to create a more visual and personal presence in order to better promote my Nutritional E-Cleanse Program.  In fact, videos are all the rage right now. I get that… I really do, but getting it and doing it are two very different things!

You see, I"m a perfectionist – mostly directed at myself! In my teens and 20’s I weighed 125 pounds and thought I was fat because most of the other girls were much smaller than I was (I have ALWAYS been a curvy gal). In my 30’s and 40’s I weighed 135 pounds and thought I was fat. Now, at age 64, I weigh 150 pounds, and I STILL see myself as fat….definitely a pattern going on here!  And since photographs and videos all make you look heavier, I have stayed away from them as much as possible. I feel SO much pressure (mostly self-directed) to be a PERFECT example of radiant health!

 "The average 5'4" medium frame menopausal woman weighs 145 pounds, has 32% body fat, carries 98 pounds of muscle, wears a size 10, and has a 28 1/2 inch waist."

~ author unknown

In my nutrition research over the years, I have seen it stated numerous times that 145 pounds is a healthy weight for a 5'4" middle aged woman, so the above statement seemed REASONABLE to me. I especially like the part about 32% body fat rather than the 26% that most charts list as healthy for women.

Is it any wonder that we feel bad about our bodies? We are bombarded every day of our lives with images and articles about being thin. I grew up with Twiggy as a role model, for heavens sake!!! Even she has a womanly appropriate sized body now - YAY!

"There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect inperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty."

~ Dr. Steve Mariboli

After doing some significant personal inquiry and online researching for awhile now, here’s what I know:

  1. I am constantly being complimented on how great I look! Seriously, like ALL the time!
  2. My weight and fat content are considered normal and healthy for a woman my age and life stage.
  3.  I take VERY good care of myself and I AM healthy. Not only do my lab tests support that, I also don’t take any medication to achieve it.
  4. My son assures me that I look 20 years younger than I really am – BLESS HIS HEART!!!

With that in mind, I have decided to let go of “perfect” and embrace and accept myself as I am – a curvy, healthy, 64 year old woman!  


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Happy, Healthy Living!


JoAnn Newton is a Holistic Nutrition Educator and Master Massage Therapist with a private practice in Graton, CA.

Passionate about helping people transform their health through holistic nutrition, she facilitates the 23 day online Nutritional E-Cleanse Program seasonally with coaching, compassion, and humor.